hi - thank you for your question
i think i learned a lot from reading Miss Elise Sutton's pages and updates over many years and especially liked the monthly 'q&a's and updates from those enlightened ladies who just knew things.
Miss Sutton's writings informed me and i learned to be accepting of my status and never to 'top from the bottom' - so if there may be things you might believe you 'want', then you keep that to yourself - as if you really needed it, then your Wife would have discussed it or provided it for you anyway.
That's not to belittle your question in any way, as i think it is a good one.
For me there are three things. Firstly, its the question of physicality in my marriage and if i could turn back the clock i'd make sure my wife knew i wouldn't be hurt if she felt it necessary to take a lover. Secondly, that if she wanted to be a mum, then i would have supported her genetic choice of provider and would have been a full on help and supporter in bringing up her baby in the best way possible.
Finally, and there's also a question on another thread, it would be the question of taking your wife's surname and i'd have asked her if i might be permitted to do that.
Those are my main 3 but i look forward to reading the responses from my other friends here xx