My approach to chastity has changed through the four or so years that I have been doing FLR. When I started I considered chastity as a must. In my view chastity was to be permanent and I had bought two devices to allow for cleaning.
It was one of the first things I did when moving to FLR. Containing his manhood seemed an obvious first act of feminization. But, to be honest I did not really think it through and I did little to no research. We had a number of problems right from the start. The devices were a poor fit for him but I could not work out if they were too big or too small. The devices would press into him, ultimately causing busing or sores. Other times they would shift position, trapping skin, stopping him from peeing properly, and in general could cause considerable pain. He also leaked and had to use pads.
I started to wonder about the use of chastity devices in our relationship. I can't use them as a form of behavior control as I am intimate with my sissy. If he were denied intimacy or release for poor behavior then I am denied as well. Besides, going into FLR I had already decided that I would use other forms of discipline and control. For us, the use of the chastity device was for the symbolic removal of his manhood. With that gone he had little choice but to accept sissy-hood - a thought that appealed to both of us.
The end of their regular use came when I learned that frequent use of the devices causes the male member to shrink and causes performance issues. That's not acceptable to me. Trust me, if there is a World Record for the fastest time to take a chastity device off a sissy, I think I have it.
In some ways the idea of the device appeals. That idea of controlling him at his most basic male part. The problem is that guys like Jemima, or sissies in general who simply submit to the devices use, aren't the ones who need it. It's all the other over masculine idiots.
I had toyed with the idea of having a little routine for it's use. Say, for a few days each month? He'd not be able to experience any intimacy, he'd have pain in his sensitive areas, He'd need to wear a pad, and I am pretty sure he'd be grumpy about it all. But, I have not acted on this.
I do use the device from time to time. It's use is pretty standard with sissies and so I want him to have the full sissy experience. For me it's not used as a form of control. It's just a part sissy-hood to be endured. I'll put him in it for short periods of time simply on my whim. I know he dislikes it, but it's not his choice.
- Claire.