Either or can work !
If one follows the discussions here and elsewhere then one can see that there are many different forms of FLR that work.
But for an FLR to work without the male being feminized it is prerequisite that the male has enough self-discipline and understanding to accept and embrace his proper role and also the ability to live up to it with soft guidance of his mistress.
In many males the toxic masculinity is so deeply ingrained that the only way for them to become useful partners and members of society is total emasculation and feminization.
Mine was pretty ingrained I think. My ex isn’t into feminization or attracted to it and she said there was a time where she was really into but I’d do stupid things out of ego and wouldn’t listen.
Once she found out what I was drawn to she leaned into it. I was surprised how much she let slide with that side of me. But over time it kept moving deeper into feminization and the power shifted. It ended with her letting mutual friends know she left bc I’m a sissy. I was pretty upset when I confronted her and she asked me to come over. I thought maybe things were changing but instead she said her friends were coming over and want to paint my nails and try outfits.
I said yes because I knew then what had happened. Now we actually talk more because we connect better. And yes, they did my makeup and nails and said I needed to show them off so we went to restaurant where they made sure others saw and heard them tell me how pretty my nails are.
Modern women can be mentally brutal that it was actually a relief for me to accept the compliment and let other men I used to drink and watch ball with see them and hear me say how much I loved my red glitter nails and floral sandals. That I felt much more comfortable and cute in my place.
I’ve never seen a table of women smile so much for me, they loved it. It was so intimidating but yet comforting knowing my place beneath them.
But that experience hasn’t changed the fact the tend to go for men who are what I used to be. I’m basically the sissy bestie now in the social circle. But finding a partner is very difficult and the more I’ve struggled with it the more I think it’s how it’s supposed to be.
Like maybe that’s what this era is? It’s the evolution of men being feminine and women leading. Maybe the design all along was to remove my seed from the pool and the solution for me to contribute to that end was my emasculation and feminization. That’s why the movement is so strong and more men are feminine.