@huberthowhow,
The short answer is, no she does not pick my panties. Very rarely does she pick my outfit for the day. She does not want a servant to boss around or control. She wants a partner that can dress by myself. Generally she is sleeping when I am getting dressed. When we do see each other I get a critique on my clothing choice.
She does not understand the humiliation desire. Some times she laughs, but usually she cringes. She does not intentionally want me in pain.
She wants me to present as a respectful 50+ year old secretary or going to church. I want to dress like a 22 year old going to a disco rave. Much of of her opinions are; Dress for your age. Cover up your tummy! You are not a size 10, more like a size 20!
I have toned it down in the past year and her opinions are more of: Those colors of your blouse an slacks do not go together. Your lipstick is a bit bright for what you are wearing. You need to shave your legs if you are going to wear a skirt.
She is supportive and I am balancing what makes her happy and what makes me happy.
Thank you for your question.
Hugs,
Jaqi