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It was a long journey for us but that didn’t really bother me. He’d never really expressed or engaged with his submissive side before and I did find it enjoyable to take him down that path. I pushed him gently along slowly becoming stricter with him. I don’t know if this would make sense, but my main issue was getting him to relax and accept it. For example, we’d agree upon a new rule and he’s tell be that he was happy with it. But then then it came to actually following the rule he would instinctively push back at me. He was happy with the idea of being told what to do but found that, when it came to it, he’d naturally resist me.

Dear Lady Claire, I think you just touched upon the area that many of us struggle with the most. In our household, it was me that has always cross dressed and my wife tolerated and then there reached a point where I wished to serve as her maid. The agreement has always been that if I want to serve her, then I must be obedient and not talk back or contradict her in both male and female mode and that is where it gets difficult as when in male mode, there are frequent displays of more macho behaviour etc. These days my wife just shakes her head and wags her finger and that might mean denial of mistress and maid time which brings me great pleasure and I suffer when being denied. So, baby steps is always the way and I have gradually changed my behaviour in male mode although I do have the occasional sulk but they are getting less frequent these days as my overall desire is to please my wife and make her happy which in turn makes me very happy. It does depend a lit on the original dynamics though.

I found this thread quite interesting. In may case, I am the one who instigated the changing of our relationship towards FLR. I had not considered the idea of hypnotic feminization, mainly because I did not know that such a thing existed.

We are settled into our FLR now but I am wondering if, had I known about hypnotic feminization, I would have used such a service. For my partner the feminization side was easy. He has a very strong feminine side and had been cross-dressing for many years. He was quite comfortable with the idea of me feminizing him. The submission and obedience side was a little harder. He does have a submissive streak otherwise I would not have suggested FLR, but is it not as strong as with some men. When I asked him about FLR he initially refused. He said that he felt he could not submit to me to the extent that I wanted. In the end he did agree to at least give it a try and we ultimately did end up in a FLR.

It was a long journey for us but that didn’t really bother me. He’d never really expressed or engaged with his submissive side before and I did find it enjoyable to take him down that path. I pushed him gently along slowly becoming stricter with him. I don’t know if this would make sense, but my main issue was getting him to relax and accept it. For example, we’d agree upon a new rule and he’s tell be that he was happy with it. But then then it came to actually following the rule he would instinctively push back at me. He was happy with the idea of being told what to do but found that, when it came to it, he’d naturally resist me.

I wondered if hypnotic feminization would have helped with this. I think I might have been reluctant to take that route. For me, it would feel to me as though I was forcing it a little. It was important to me that my partner submit in his own time when he was comfortable doing so. I was clear from the outset that I intended to be strict and that the consequences for disobedience could be unpleasant. He must be completely happy to accept that from his own free will. I would have preferred I to take make the first approach in this case.   
 
- Claire.