I chose the panties. All of the items listed are important in achieving demasculinization, but when i am in panties, I am constantly aware of it. My clitstick can never NOT feel the material. When I was younger and first tried wearing bras, it was because I wanted to imagine boys "feeling me up" the way they like to do with girls. But once I submitted to my wife, that desire was out of the question. I wasn't "becoming a girl" in order to thrill men. I was becoming "de-masculinized" in order to accept the dominance of my wife. Its a different mindset altogether