New Age Lifestyle

I'm curious about the differences between self imposed feminization and feminization enforced by a partner. My experience has been self imposed using all sorts of "sissy hypnosis" videos. I've also tried using a chastity cage but it was difficult as I was worried my member would lose its strength. Long story short I had the key and used it. I've never had a girlfriend and would never have the courage to speak of this if I did.

What is it like being feminized by a partner? Deep down I want to share my secret with someone special and engage the journey together.

How do I express who I am/want to be? Halloween can't come soon enough  Not like I've planned that year after year

Saying is there's a time and place for everything. How is this worked out? Very easy in privacy of your room

Thank you all!

Hello and welcome. I’ve contributed content on here as well as others you can definitely look into.

A few things about your post specifically that I see is that what your experiencing is your natural state and that you’ll need guidance because you remind me of myself prior to my ex having her way with me. I don’t see you progressing without being forced so you’ll need a gf.

The biggest difference for me was on my own purging was easy and with her it was a gradual release of power until my physical and psychological submission was achieved. After that she had me on spiro and low dose estrogen not for transition but to destroy my masculinity permanently. I willingly took them because at that point my pleasure came from doing as told and I chemically castrated myself because a woman told me to.

Let me tell you, that changes your psychology forever as they shrink up and atrophy. What once was my pride is now just a reminder of my inferiority so I just look past it and enjoy my smooth legs or pedicure instead. I have nothing left to offer but to be submissive, docile, and as cute as possible.

I think what you need is guidance - use that sissy content which I don’t agree with because it empowers men - but it at least gets you more open to expose yourself which can lead to a woman finding you. Ultimately you’ll find that sissy content shallow and realize that being a sissy is actually empowering - you’ll understand that society lied about a lot of contructs - and you’ll start to be proud to be a Bi@tch. I love it, best of luck ❤️

Thank you for the replies and advice!

I'd like to believe going into this I'm not naive because of the research I've done but it isn't experience.

I hope there will be at least several replies to this, but as there are none yet I'll start with the expectation more and surely better ones will follow.
I would tell you there most certainly are vast, deep, and completely life altering differences between self-feminization and forced feminization. The most basic, and I think important one is that with forced feminization you no longer be in charge of the process in any way. You will be trained and changed to fit someone else's standards and demands on every aspect of your life. You will have control over nothing and crave this condition for the rest of your life.
I would suggest you do two things here. The first is to accept these and other concepts you will be taught. The second is to have a personal relationship with a female, someone you could feel is a 'girlfriend'. Without this and the subsequent development of a relationship, you will be in for a pretty frustrating and non productive life.
I will let others take it from this. Good luck to you.

Miss Anne,

The idea of giving up control to a tusted partner is euphoric. My hangup is the courage it takes "putting yourself out-there," I've tried, failed and it hurt. I's why all the feminized males and mistresses deserve so much respect. If you ask me the amount of sissy's that get to live their true nature is a sliver. I'm going to try and fail until I get it right!

Hello and welcome. I’ve contributed content on here as well as others you can definitely look into.

A few things about your post specifically that I see is that what your experiencing is your natural state and that you’ll need guidance because you remind me of myself prior to my ex having her way with me. I don’t see you progressing without being forced so you’ll need a gf.

The biggest difference for me was on my own purging was easy and with her it was a gradual release of power until my physical and psychological submission was achieved. After that she had me on spiro and low dose estrogen not for transition but to destroy my masculinity permanently. I willingly took them because at that point my pleasure came from doing as told and I chemically castrated myself because a woman told me to.

Let me tell you, that changes your psychology forever as they shrink up and atrophy. What once was my pride is now just a reminder of my inferiority so I just look past it and enjoy my smooth legs or pedicure instead. I have nothing left to offer but to be submissive, docile, and as cute as possible.

I think what you need is guidance - use that sissy content which I don’t agree with because it empowers men - but it at least gets you more open to expose yourself which can lead to a woman finding you. Ultimately you’ll find that sissy content shallow and realize that being a sissy is actually empowering - you’ll understand that society lied about a lot of contructs - and you’ll start to be proud to be a Bi@tch. I love it, best of luck ❤️

J,

Reading your post is a wake up call to me. Reading it is exciting. But honestly it disturbes me because since I was young I've wanted a family it's just thats how I thought life went I guess. Growing up it was engrained throughout the cycle of life there was that step but I know everyone's different and I can be feminized after having kids. The more I look at it the more I understand the necesity of completing treatments with estrogen or possibly castration. The idea of looking in the mirror and trying to act "macho" without my manhood is the reinforcement that I need to be who I am.

It would seem that the difference is that self feminization is done on one's own terms, while enforced feminization is done reluctantly, and even non consensually, and at the direction/command of someone else.

Huberthowhow,

Ask obvious questions get obvious answers  I appreciate the help because I know you are right.

Courage is contagious! Thank you all again!

I recognize youre situation. I thought about this a lot and come to the conclusion there is no such thing as forced Feminization except in forced Feminization stories or there is a relationship where violence and /or blackmail is involved. Both are signs off an unhealthy relationship and illegal in most countries. If you think about it its youre and mine choice to have a new age lifestyle and feminization. For example if a person demands you wear panties, and you really don't want it, what can that person do to force you? Nothing really

So it's all self feminization but superior women who like this lifestyle can have a femdom relationship with new age men and define the roles in a relationship and guide you into feminization.

I don't know where you live, town or city, liberal or conservative society, laws regarding Lgtbhiq etc. I live in a very liberal country and have realized people don't care what you wear in public. I have walked with skinny woman jeans, woman shirts, woman bag, woman shoes had a manicure and it was okay. Sometimes women laugh or looked surprised but nothing more. I think if you show feminization in public the chances are higher that you find (fellow sissy, Lgtbhiq person or superior woman who want to have contact with you. Maybe start small. 40 steps to pink femme is a good website regarding feminization

I was started by my ex- but have carried on alone although we are still friends and we talk on skype a lot. She still motivates me without saying a thing which is the big issue IMHO. It is hard work and back-sliding is easy as any dieter or New Year's Resolution maker knows. However what worked for me was:
Make a list of everything you aren't happy with in your life. This may take a week or more before you run out of things, when you do list out what would make you happy in each case. Then a plan of how to get from one to the other. Growing your hair out, feminine voice, weight loss, and clearing the baggage of a life of pretending all take time, are generally beneficial/reversible, so should be started early.
Small changes should be introduced as each becomes routine wear panties 24/7 before dumping male underwear. Always sit for the toilet even if it means waiting while out and about. Look after your skin exfoliate and moisturise, use female deodorants, go hairless below the eyebrows, and so on.

Once started you'll reach a point where you 'need' to go further and it'll get easier. Trust me I've made this journey.

When you feel you are ready develop a social life around the feminised you. There are social and support groups, chat-rooms and forums to meet like-minded people. I've had great experiences with Fetlife but YMMV. Research will be your new hobby whether investigating solutions to issues you want to overcome, hairstyles, clothing and so on. It can be done on your own but it's a lot easier with support, there will be days when you question things, that's normal, you'll find a way through as others have faced the same. Be prepared to make changes you hadn't thought of and rule nothing out.