Hi Marcy,
Sissy Sarah alluded to a very pertinent point relating to your status. The subject of toxic masculine behaviour came up and that is an area where I believe many of us really fall down or fail and find it difficult to “come back”.
If you are in a full time FLR, and you are led, and taught your place, which is to serve and obey at all times, I would contend that gradually the kind of reaction and behaviour that you exhibited would disappear quite easily.
However, many of us flit between two worlds and that can cause unexpected issues, I describe myself as a part-time sissy maid and it is my wife that determines when she wants a maid and for how long she will be in service. The rest of the time she wants a male partner with all the outward signs of being what I can best describe as a “normal vanilla male”. The trouble is that as a male it is easy to slip back into some of the behaviours that our wives/girlfriends/partners are trying to correct or abolish altogether. A few nights ago we were with friends and playing a board game and during the game I argued with my wife over an outcome and then sulked and said I was not playing anymore. In male mode I am very competitive and even with games I probably take things too seriously. I know this upset my wife and something will be said about it and there will be consequences when visitors have left and we resume a mistress/maid type of relationship even if I am not dressed for the occasion. It is difficult to reconcile the different roles and especially being a male without many of what might be considered to be the traditional behaviours that we are attempting to eradicate.
Some would say the simple solution is to enter a full time FLR but that is not necessarily that easy and so when we know we have failed to live up to expectations or we have resisted, we must learn to deal with the consequences.