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Wisdom from Madam Rebecca
« on: December 29, 2020, 06:29:30 pm »
I am going to be adding to this as time goes on.  But Madam Rebecca is a Strong Advocate for Feminizing men to keep them under Control.  I will be using this thread to bring her thoughts to others!


Why it's necessary to Feminize the male (long)
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The following was originally posted to the related Yahoo Group several years ago. i have included relevent responses/questions that were part of the discussion.

Some Domme's believe that feminization is not necessary when dominating the male and that is true, its not. So why do I do it? First, look at what happens when you don't. As a Domme I can dominate a male by force or humiliation or blackmail. I can keep him naked and make him serve me as a servant but I always have a male serving me. i can tie him up, spank him, keep him naked or in a cage, but he is still a male and maybe even a man. As soon as I stop my control he returns to being a man again or at least a male.

So each time i want something from him I need to put some kind of "Force" on him. There is always the threat he may fight back or refuse and that means a lot of extra work for me. My primary reason for having servants is to reduce my work, thus this option does not make good sense to me. For those who truly enjoy conflict, maybe this is the way to go but for me, i want a well trained completely obedient and compliant servant who WANTS to and NEEDS to serve me without regard for his own personal desires. I want my desires to be his desires.

Feminization removes the man or maleness from his mind. It changes him into a sissy servant thus the male issues and problems cease to exist. Males come with a wide range of issues, problems, and faults. These can all be corrected through feminization.

Letís examine a few of the leading problems. First is male ego. Some have bigger ones than others but they all have it, they all are "men" in their own minds and nearly super human. This means they want control; they want things done their way, to look their way. What would a male say if you put him into a room decorated in pinks and whites and lace? HE would demand it be taken out. What if you bought a pink car, he would not only not drive it but would not ride in it.

How about you going out and spending time with other males? What if you held the remote? All these things have to do with the male ego and itís a problem if you are going to have a compliant servant.

Another problem is giving. A male likes to give you a present and remind you he did but is he willing to do your laundry? Was your dishes? Scrub your floor? If he does he will remind you it was YOUR floor or YOUR laundry as if you are the one who is supposed to be serving him. Will he wait in the car for you while you are busy for one or two hours? But yet he would expect you to do so. You are expected to give as a female but as a male he expects to receive all of these services and much more. This problem does not bode well either so must be dealt with.

Then there is the head of the house thing. He's the man and so he's the head of the house. He may listen to your opinion but HE makes the final decision. Even others will ask you if it's OK with your husband or he is referred to as the one who wears the pants in your house.

The list goes on but you get the idea. So how do you change all of this and not have to lift a finger or make a threat of a beating? Simple, you start wearing the pants and put him into the panties, bras, nylons and dresses. You make up his face and paint his nails. You tell him he is NOT a man, he is a sissy.

Yes it is pretty much that simple. Let me assure you that when your husband or boyfriend is standing in front of you dressed as a sissy he will not argue, he will not threaten, he will not be a problem of any kind. It is so easy to mold a male into a proper sissy servant that it is beyond me why every woman has not done it. Really, itís so simple and so wonderful. And what's even better is once that male has relinquished control and accepted his new position as a sissy servant he likes it better too and wonders why you did not do it earlier.

The problem is that you have to force him first. You have to get him into girls clothing and let him see he really is not a man. Real men don't wear girlsí clothes so if he does he is automatically not a real man.

But just any old clothes are not enough. You have to remember that males are raised though visual symbols. They have embedded into their small minds ideals that are representations of what they expect and what they expect others will expect. So think of feminine clothing as uniforms. Letís start with a maidís uniform. Simple to understand. Put the male into a maidís uniform and he will instantly want to be the maid he looks like. Use plain ones for regular work and fancy ones for formal service.

At night put him into very feminine baby dolls with bows and pink slippers and a doll or teddy. Now he understands he is in nightwear and will sleep like a baby.

Keep in mind you're not trying to dress him like most women dress. You're trying to dress him like HE thinks women should dress. Exaggerate his attire. For example, i make my sissies study every day and when doing so they must dress like a school girl but not like any school girl who may wear baggy pants and a sweat shirt. No, oh no, they must dress in the short school girl uniform, with little girl socks and shoes.

If i have a party, for a sissy he must wear a fancy full petticoated little girlís party dress. Not a pantsuit like a woman might wear. He is not a woman and he is not a man; he is a pansy and he must dress like a pansy. He must never think he is a man or even a male. He must be constantly reminded he is a sissy.

This is done, vocally, visually and by feeling. I make sure my sissy understands he is not a real man by being with real men. I make sure he feels like a sissy by wearing sissy clothes at all times and keeping his body free of hair and nails painted. I make sure he hears he is a sissy by reminding him of it. Things like "Youíre such a wonderful sissy", "if youíre a good sissy today i will get you some new sissy panties to wear when I go on my date Friday night". Talk to others about him being a sissy so he can hear it. Let others see him as a sissy so you are not the only one. Never keep it a secret, let as many people know as possible so he cannot pretend he is a man.

But most of all always reward him for being a sissy. Tell him how much you like it when he is properly dressed when he serves you in front of guests and how proud you are. Reward him with a pretty dress or fancy panties or new make-up for things he does. Teach him to associate rewards with being a better sissy.

Now no matter what he is wearing or not wearing, he knows he is a sissy, he knows others know he is a sissy, and he can not escape from it. In a short time he will learn to love being your sissy, dressing the part and serving you and your guests and then you have the best of everything and so will he because he will think only of you all the time. He will desire to serve only you or who ever you tell him to all of the time and his satisfaction will come from pleasing you.

Now you may want to think about your present situation and think about if you're as happy as you can be, or if you should follow this advice and become very happy, very fulfilled and satisfied and see your male become so too.

I will be more than happy to answer any questions concerning this subject.

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Re: Wisdom from Madam Rebecca
« Reply #1 on: December 29, 2020, 10:23:46 pm »
Fabulous post Patti, Madam Rebecca's successful system for training sissies is really a work of art. While a woman can easily get most men into panties and bit by bit get him into dresses as she points out it isn't enough for him to want to be a sissy. Her method of continual rewards and praise each time he willingly accepts each step she encourages him to take and reminding him he's a sissy eventually will have him enjoying her dominance. As men the last thing any of us ever wanted was to be called a sissy, it's a negative hurtful word that has always been used mostly by stronger more aggressive men to assert what they believe is their superior masculinity over other males. In this lifestyle where women prefer feminine males it is not hurtful to be referred to as a sissy, it's more of a compliment because we are committed to our feminization. This is where Madam Rebecca eases her new sissies into accepting what they have become and want to be taken further. So when women call us sissies they know we have tried our best to be one and I like to think we have earned their praise.


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Re: Wisdom from Madam Rebecca
« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2021, 10:19:19 am »
Here is another Installment of the Wisdom of Madam Rebecca!

This is Entitled:  Tips for the Ladies who Want to Take Control!

Tips for the Ladies who want to take control (Madam's sissie)
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Please note: this was originally posted on the Yahoo Group by Madam Rebecca

TIPS FOR THE LADIES WHO WANT TO TAKE CONTROL - PT. 1

Madam has done many things to train me over the years. Some of them involve things that can not be done in public but others can be and I want to share some of those that worked best and had the most effect on me with you.

Keys - do not allow the male to have his own keys. Put a feminine charm on the key ring and lend him the keys when he must use the car. When he is done he has to return them to you and when he needs them he must ask you for them. Itís subtle enough to not cause a problem in public but controlling enough to make him feel submissive and demonstrate to others who is in control.

Money - All credit cards should be in your name. he can use them if he must be he will be signing under your card and name, this will humble him each time he does it. Cash should be handed out to him when he needs it and how much. Madam used to let me keep a dollar only.

Bed time - there is nothing quite like sitting with company and having your wife tell you itís your bed time and send you to bed. I was always scared to death to disobey her for fear of what she may do if I did. She had me return one time in my nightgown and say goodnight to a couple and her lover who were in the scene so i always excused my self and went to bed when she told me too.

Eating - if you are out to dinner or just in a restaurant she can order the meals for both of you. She simply tells the waiter he will have this... if you order something he does not particularly like or even dislikes and make the statement that this is his favorite dish she has taken control and choice away from him and probably helped his diet out as well. If anyone asks, she can say that she is doing it for his health as he is not capable of making those decisions for himself.

Driving - the lady should be the one who drives unless she does not want to. This places the male into a subordinated position. If you have another guest you can make your male sit in the back seat.

Serving - when you have guests tell him to serve refreshments or dinner. The lady should never do such menial work. Guests enjoy seeing the husband waiting on them, both males and females like this and it makes the male feel very submissive and puts him into a maidís role even if he is not properly uniformed.

In conversation he should be required to look at his Lady for permission to speak or answer a question and then only do so when she tells him it is OK. Madam would say, "you can answer that question" I would and the people would look a little surprised but after the third time they too would look to her to see if she was going to give permission. One Lady asked her about it and she simply told her, "i can't stand to hear a man dominate a conversation and I won't make others listen to it either". She got smiles and nodding heads and all went on as if nothing had happened.

These are just a few of the things that madam has used on me when she could not be more strict. They have all helped me to be more polite, attentive and obedient as well as reminding me of my place. I hope they will help others and i hope others will share similar experiences so we can all benefit from the information.

TIPS FOR THE LADIES WHO WANT TO TAKE CONTROL - PT. 2

Meeting your lover in a restaurant and having your husband sit at the table beside or across from you while you sit beside your lover and carry on a conversation strictly with your lover.

Handing him your purse while you are in the checkout line and then leaving him under the pretense that you need to look at something. Then when he gets close to the check out let him see you standing down the store a ways.

Buy lingerie and hand him a few pairs of panties and bras and tell them you are getting those for him and then some for you. Have him carry his along with yours and when you are ready to check out turn to him and say, "Well if you want me to buy those for you, get them up here so I can pay for them."

Have him wear ladies jeans when in public. How much you want to humiliate him can vary depending on how feminine they are. Most will not notice but he will be very aware of what he has on and if he has panties and is tucked they will fit very nicely. You may also wish to have him wear panties with padded derriere and hips to bring out the look even more.

Take him shopping for jeans and after trying several pairs on and saying they don't fit right, ask the sales clerk, preferably female, if she thinks women's jeans may fit him better since the men's don't and women often find men's jeans fit them better. Then suggest he try on several pair and pick out the ones you like best remarking on how well they fit. If the clerk says anything just tell her that he is NOT endowed at all like other men and so it would be worth a try. Be sure he hears it all. Madam has done this to me many times and the female clerks seem to really enjoy it. At first they seem protective not wanting to make him wear something too feminine so madam would say she could take care of that latter but by the end when she picked out the ones she wanted me to wear she would say to the clerk, "I think i like the idea of him wearing these more feminine jeans, it will help keep him from pretending to be macho and let me tell you that is all it would be... pretending because he has nothing to fill out men's jeans with". She would laugh and so would the clerk and I would be starkly reminded that a sissy I am.

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Re: Wisdom from Madam Rebecca
« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2021, 02:09:49 pm »
I just love how Madam Rebecca controls her sissies even when they are still in male mode. Her strict approach to expecting submissive behavior and obedience in public remind me of some of my own instances as my wife began to enjoy her new found authority in the early days of my feminization. One of the very first times was when I was taken shopping with her for a new outfit for an upcoming social event. She had picked up a couple of different skirts and blouses to try on and the sales lady brought her to the change room and while fumbling with her coat and purse and everything else she handed me her coat and purse telling me to hold them. The sales lady intervened saying she would take them but my wife said not to bother and that I had nothing to do so I hung onto them feeling very sheepish as it was obvious the saleslady sensed my discomfort.

As my feminization progressed the need for new outfits and lingerie for me was always on our minds and when one day my wife decided she needed a couple of new bras I was promised there would be one for me too so we went to an upscale lingerie shop. As before I took her coat and purse while she tried on several bras until she found what fit her best and she put the others back on their hangers where they had come from. One of the bras she chose was prettier than the other and she picked an identical one for me and we went up to the lady at the sales counter. As she was ringing up the sale she noticed the matching bras were very different in band and cup sizes and tells her she has mistakenly taken the one with the larger band size which was for me from the wrong hook on the wall. With a clear and assertive voice my wife tells her there is no mistake and says nothing else. Immediately the sales lady's eyes fixate on me with a disapproving look and I can't help but feel intimidated. As my wife finishes her purchase you could hear a pin drop and we leave without so much as a thank you. As we get into the car my wife bursts out laughing, "None of her damn business anyway" and then with a giggle she adds, "Imagine what they are talking about in there now". I no longer feel the embarrassment I experienced in front of the saleslady but am instead thankful she is taking me deeper into this lifestyle and nothing says it better than a new bra.

Simple instances such as these not only contributed to furthering my feminization but they also gave my wife the necessary confidence to firmly take the lead in our relationship. 
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Re: Wisdom from Madam Rebecca
« Reply #4 on: July 28, 2022, 06:18:21 pm »
@Patti, Thank you so much for posting this advice and tips for Females on how to work on making and ensuring a sissy has no male ego left. Found it very insightful and wanted to get this back on the topic board for any Females working on improving their male  to make a sissy.

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« Reply #5 on: July 29, 2022, 12:51:09 pm »
This may be grounds for banning the writer from the board but it appears that one could substitute (and vice versa): female for male; she for he, her for him and masculinization for feminization in the first monologue - "Why it's necessary to Feminize the male" and arrive at a fairly clear statement of what board participants want to achieve for the females.  If this statement is accurate, is the purpose of board participants to create the female version of what they detest in males?  For example: "Why it's necessary to Masculinize the female".  Also, "Letís examine a few of the leading problems. First is male [female] ego. Some have bigger ones than others but they all have it, they all are "men" ["female"] in their own minds and nearly super human. This means they want control; they want things done their way, to look their way." Women should be wary of the old standard "absolute power corrupts absolutely" or, fantasies aside, is this the primary objective in the first place?

The favorite statements by "Madam Rebecca" are the ones involving control. Any male going to a female dom are by definition seeking to give up control. The article states "As a Domme I can dominate a male by force or humiliation or blackmail. I can keep him naked and make him serve me as a servant but I always have a male serving me. i can tie him up, spank him, keep him naked or in a cage, but he is still a male and maybe even a man." And "So each time i want something from him I need to put some kind of "Force" on him."  This is fantasy, at least as far as the male is concerned.  If it turns real, as evidenced by another thread on the board regarding potential blackmail, legal issues arise and all hell can break loose.

None of this is meant to condemn or deride a freely chosen lifestyle but it should be recognized for what it is, a choice.
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« Reply #6 on: July 29, 2022, 09:52:05 pm »

Babycakes... what you seem to miss is that males defined all their actions, status, roles, power, pre-eminance etc etc as "masculine"... when in actuality they are being proven NOT to be natural to the malette at all, but are increasingly being far more attributes of WOMAN.  And in that Females are truly the sex that has right to function and express Their right to present such to the world. to Each Other and to society.  Surely this is a difficult reality for the malette to adjust to -  that the natural paradigm of power dyanamics of sexual interaction is merely now being corrected.
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Re: Wisdom from Madam Rebecca
« Reply #7 on: July 30, 2022, 08:11:14 am »
To answer the Question of what this Forum and Blog are all about in a Brief statement it is this:

    This Forum & Blog was NEVER set up as a "Crossdressing" Site, it was set up as a "New Way Forward".  Whether someone Agrees with this concept or not is irrelevant.  What has made this Site and the Blog different is it's emphasis on Female Power, and male subjugation through Feminization and basically the Reversing of traditional Gender Roles.  The male behaviors of the past is what brought this Concept into being.  Look just at a little more than 100 years ago...Women were the "property" of males.  They were not allowed to vote.  They were not allowed to own property.  They were allowed to be beaten (by law) by their males!  And all of that was Okay by Society!   Now that there could be a Total Reversal of those activities, many men are crying "Foul"! 

     Whether people want to join this Forum or follow the Blog is totally up to them, nobody is Forcing this on them.  With that said, the Forum & Board does look at the Reality of the Concept.  It does Encourage male Feminization, nut it also realizes that these are indeed males, and they are seeking a Better Way forward as Feminine males.  The Women are taking Power and Control, and whether they decide to be "masculine" or not, they are still Powerful WOMEN.  And that in a "nutshell" what this is all about...Female Empowerment.

     You decision, if you like what we have to offer, it's here, otherwise Enjoy the things in life that you like!   This is not here to have arguments over, it is here to Inform and Encourage!

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Re: Wisdom from Madam Rebecca
« Reply #8 on: July 30, 2022, 02:31:51 pm »
Hi Babycakes and thank you for your opinion 💐

You might have missed the key point of the writing you made parody of.  The point was not so much how force CAN be applied to the male to change his behavior but perhaps to demonstrate the efforts needed on all parties OR to show the simple alternative of having him cross dress most or full time and watch his behavior change to match.

Keep in mind that he is not exactly dressing as females actually do but to get inside his head, ďYou're trying to dress him like HE thinks women should dress.Ē

Turn the distorted male view of femininity against the male himself.  Instead of projecting an ideal on someone else, it gets refocused inside him to create a positive change from within.
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« Reply #9 on: August 06, 2023, 02:02:13 pm »
I was a skilled crossdressed when I met my late wife she decided as a sissy our relationship should be female controlled. She initiated the shoe kiss greeting. I was to be at the door when she came in and to kneel and kiss the toe of each shoe in greeting. When she passed and I met Mistress Linda I was obligated to tell all. Mistress giggled extended a foot and said well? I kissed the shoe and it is a practice I still continue. Mistress Linda enjoys a nice foot rub on a daily basis often in public places.
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