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« Last post by Lady Claire on March 25, 2026, 07:44:47 am »
Here is my take on this… I am aware that there are some men who may prefer women who are physically stronger than themselves and would dominate them in the bedroom. However, outside of that sphere they would not be interested in FLR as a template for a relationship. Female domination and female leadership are two different things. Don’t confuse the two.
My partner is stronger than I am and he is also slightly taller than me. But, this suits me as I feel my authority should be based on showing leadership rather than dictating terms as I am the stronger of the two of us. As @ccponyboy points out, in FLR both parties are invested in each other. Both my partner and I agreed to this and, correctly done, FLR should be in both our interests. Yes, it’s fun to put him him in dresses and have him cook and clean to my satisfaction but I have my own role to play. Just has he takes the role of a traditional wife, I must take the role of husband. I have to be mindful of my career, make sure our household finances are in order, and lead our relationship. I accept that in moments of real emotional strife in our lives it is I who will have to act as the strong one and take the lead. In my view, FLR is a duty of care.
Yes, I do dominate in the bedroom and I am the authority in my home. I expect obedience and don’t tolerate rule breaking or poor attitudes. I consider myself to be a strict Mistress, but these aspects are just a part of how FLR works and not the full picture. My argument is that this is not domination for the sake of it but part of more caring discipline within our relationship. My rules cover both fun aspects of FLR but also more day-to-day aspects. I do not assert my authority without cause. The bedrock of FLR is actually quite dull. It’s about integrating the values of FLR into our lives as much as possible while ensuring that we are both content with the results.
- Claire.